September 20, 2008

Honesty, Truth, and Friendship

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Honesty, Truth, and Friendship


It was hard to hear but the truth about who I was and all my emotional problems were right on the money. This is the sign of a true friend. The fact that my personal issues destroyed the greatest relationship I ever had is only because I was deaf, dumb, blind and stubborn.


Our friendship has endured some horrendous battles and I pray daily that this most special person never leaves my life. She is, brutally honest, but extremely trustworthy. She knows how to be a true blue friend. When my life has been at its lowest, she was there to pull me back up. I have learned much from her. I strive to be the kind of friend to her as she has been to me. I want to help her in every possible way.


If only I knew a genie, I would wish to rekindle our romance. I don’t and I know a romantic relationship with her is never again going to be possible. But, we have an extremely strong friendship and I prize that most highly.


This sounds like a personal essay on my friend, my destroyed relationship, and me. It isn’t. I used the word destroyed for two reasons, first it’s true and second because it is a very strong word. I have serious emotional issues. But, how does someone with a very negative and sordid past handle relationships?


Is love and romance even possible for this type of person? If she bares her soul and is brutally honest about her past, can she have a happy future? I used me as an example of how emotional issues can drive a couple apart. Read my posts on Oct. 1 and 2 to see how a life of physical torment in the past can be turned into a future of light. Lensey and Lacresha Hayes start their virtual book tour here (on this blog), on the first day of October. Follow them through the month as they discuss “Truth and Intimacy: A Couples Journey.”


  1. Very clever way to draw someone’s interest into the upcoming interview Ron. Good job, and right on the money.

    Comment by Marvin D Wilson — September 20, 2008 @ 1:39 pm | Reply

  2. Ron,

    That was a good post. Sometimes, we can lose someone because of our struggles. Seems deliverance comes a bit late to save a relationship that we deem so important, but you have to look higher. God reserves something special for us. Jesus told his disciples that they’d not lost anything that would be repayed them in this life AND the one to come. So, you’ve not lost anything that God won’t replace. And, you are fortunate to still be friends with your special someone. Thanks for this post. Love and hugs.

    Comment by Lacresha Hayes — September 20, 2008 @ 4:49 pm | Reply

  3. Ron,
    You wrote “But, how does someone with a very negative and sordid past handle relationships?”. I believe by asking this question you’ve stepped upon the very first stepping stone on that path. You also stated that you have serious emotional issues. I’ll assume that because you have acknowledged this, you are in counseling and accepting the help that you need and require. Because you write about your pain, your issues, you are already on the road to healing. I hope you know that, and take comfort in that.
    Be well,

    Comment by Jessi Bacon — September 21, 2008 @ 4:17 am | Reply

  4. It’s weird that I’m reading this today because I just had a deep conversation with my boyfriend about sharing the darkest parts of our past. We both laid our bones bare to see what the other will say, to often the advice I hear is, “never tell a man” everything. You feel so vulnerable when you put your spirit and soul out there for another person to connect with you. I just think it’s imperative to starting a good and honest relationship. Anyway, I think this is an interesting topic, so if this is a sneak peak or as snippet of more to come it was definitely enticing.

    Comment by Adrianne Graves — September 21, 2008 @ 4:32 am | Reply

  5. interesting post. you mind if i link you up in my blog?

    Comment by crypticwriter — September 21, 2008 @ 2:48 pm | Reply

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