September 22, 2008

Beauty is not Physical

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Beauty is not physical


“I am ugly as sin.”


Oh, wait, I’ve used that line before. It doesn’t matter, it’s still wrong. Why? Because it is talking about physical appearance. That does not define the person. Yet how many of us have self-esteem problems because of how we look? First and foremost, your personal view of you is probably wrong.


At one point in time I didn’t have much room to talk. I spent sixty one years with self-esteem lower than the Dead Sea (Yeah, I know, I used that line before too, but I like it.) “You open a magazine or look on TV and you see what beauty is supposed to be. I have looked in the mirror many times and know without a doubt that I don’t fit the profile.” This quote is from a woman I know and is eerily close to what a very dear friend of mine said. There is a major problem within that quote.


Does anyone see it? It’s the same mistake I made. You are using the wrong mirror!! Beauty is not the physical mask we show to the world. That can be changed for better or for worse. Look instead at your inner mirror. Look inside yourself for therein lays your true beauty. This applies to those that are so vain as to consider themselves to be ‘beautiful’ also. Do not rely on your physical looks.


So what then is inner beauty? It is independent of skin color. How do you treat others? Kindness is the first characteristic. Are you friendly or cold? A friend is very friendly and honest. When her words hurt someone, she is doubly hurt. She is a beautiful lady because she is kind and cares for all that surrounds her. Like many she has emotional issues. Instead of them controlling her, she channels them in her quest to help others.


I keep seeing the word ‘ego. This is one time when self-esteem and ego are on the same level. Raise your self-esteem and bring your ego to an even keel.


“I’ll never feel loved” is another quote based too much on physical appearance. Look again to that inner mirror. There is at least one person that loves you for who and what you are. With a very kind and warm inner beauty, you are loved unconditionally. Ok, I have not reached that point yet and may never do so, of that I am sure. But ladies, forget that bathroom mirror and that scale. True beauty comes from within, not without.




  1. Absolutely spot on.

    Beauty comes from within, the “Supermodels” in the magazines are, for the most part, not beautiful. There are exceptions but Twiggy is getting on a bit now – so while still beautiful is probably not listed as a supermodel.

    If you see a “perfect(?)” female human shape in a magazine etc. look into the eyes, the eyes reveal the true beauty.

    Most “Supermodels have “Dead” eyes – no feeling or personality and when they do something for charity, it’s not because they want to, it’s usually because they’ve been told it is good for their image.

    30 years ago, I was fortunate to marry a woman with both looks and beauty.

    Comment by John Tompkins — September 22, 2008 @ 11:05 am | Reply

  2. very nice piece, Ron. I like your new blog.

    Comment by Kara Douglas — September 22, 2008 @ 11:37 am | Reply

  3. A topic often visited, but seldom put into practice. Nicely done here, Ron. It is hard to feel pretty or handsome when our society makes false gods out of the “beautiful people.” Many young ladies have eating disorders because of their desire to look thin like the models and actresses they admire and are not comfortable with the healthy shape their body that God gave them is supposed to look like.

    Comment by Marvin D Wilson — September 22, 2008 @ 4:05 pm | Reply

  4. Ron – OK Ron – I’ve read and it’s “beautiful”. We hear about “inner-beauty”. I just finshed a short story where I wrote “her inner-beauty spills all over her outer”.

    I believe that inner-beauty is TRUE beauty and outer beauty is icing on the cake, so to speak.

    Keep writing

    Comment by Bonnie — September 22, 2008 @ 11:56 pm | Reply

  5. Ron,
    I went to your blog last night. I didn’t realize it was the same one. Wonderful blog, just wonderful! I love the message and of course it’s a great reader’s and writer’s blog site to visit.
    Nice to meet you, Susan.

    Comment by Susan Wingate — September 23, 2008 @ 5:32 pm | Reply

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